Too Much and Never Enough

Too Much and Never Enough

How My Family Created the World's Most Dangerous Man

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"In this revelatory, authoritative portrait of Donald J. Trump and the toxic family that made him, Mary L. Trump, a trained clinical psychologist and Donald’s only niece, shines a bright light on the dark history of their family in order to explain how her uncle became the man who now threatens the world’s health, economic security, and social fabric. Mary Trump spent much of her childhood in her grandparents’ large, imposing house in the heart of Queens, New York, where Donald and his four siblings grew up. She describes a nightmare of traumas, destructive relationships, and a tragic combination of neglect and abuse. She explains how specific events and general family patterns created the damaged man who currently occupies the Oval Office, including the strange and harmful relationship between Fred Trump and his two oldest sons, Fred Jr. and Donald. A firsthand witness to countless holiday meals and interactions, Mary brings an incisive wit and unexpected humor to sometimes grim, often confounding family events. She recounts in unsparing detail everything from her uncle Donald’s place in the family spotlight and Ivana’s penchant for regifting to her grandmother’s frequent injuries and illnesses and the appalling way Donald, Fred Trump’s favorite son, dismissed and derided him when he began to succumb to Alzheimer’s." --book jacket.
Publisher: New York : Simon & Schuster, 2020
ISBN: 9781982141462
1982141468
Branch Call Number: B TRUMP
Characteristics: 240 pages : illustrations ; 23 cm

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pmshoe1047
Feb 24, 2021

Great book about a terrible man. Mary L. Trump, Donald's niece, grew up seeing the family dynamics that made Trump the narrow, unfeeling, dishonest, shameless fake he is--not only as a "businessman" (at which he continually failed) but as President as well. Most of the blame goes to Donald's father, Fred, a Scroogelike figure who (unlike Scrooge) never changes. The book reads beautifully, like a well-written novel. Only in this novel, there are no heroes, only villains and victims--and more often, both. The atmosphere is dark and oppressive, like one of Dickens's gloomier novels, Little Dorrit say. There is constant, strident wealth and ostentation, matched only by an emotional poverty that no amount of money can relieve.

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dirtbag
Jan 28, 2021

A tiresome in-family hit job. Despite her denial, I think she is a disgruntled, angry person who is mostly upset about how her father was treated. I believe she wrote it for the money and the 5 minutes of fame. There is no concentrated analysis of the Donald until you hit the last chapter of the book. Then it starts to rant.

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runningbeat
Jan 25, 2021

Author, who was Donald Trumps niece, wrote about his parents and siblings and how they were raised and why he became the person he is today. Would recommend this book to people who love or hate him.

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SUSAN LOGEMAN
Jan 21, 2021

I enjoyed the insight into how Trump evolved from a boy into a compulsive liar. This cruel, selfish, weak , corrupt man wreaked havoc on the world for many years. I felt Mary did an amazing report on how under his rule people would suffer greatly along with the economy. I now hope he will be held accountable for his actions. A man like this will never change.

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MarieMcDermott
Jan 16, 2021

Great to read truth instead of the lies! As Jack Nicholson said "You can't handle the TRUTH". Unbelievable that a man with major mental issues became President and now thinks the election was stolen from him. Again, "You can't handle the TRUTH"

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StarGladiator
Jan 16, 2021

I admit to just skimming this obvious hit job -- a neighbor passed it on to me for my opinion -- not that interested in the subject and appalled at the subtitle --- one views the horrific human rights abuses of China's Xi Jinping and Un of North Korea -- and so many other countries! The author is cleary deranged. Another commenter here wishes to blame 300,00 plus deaths on Trump, yet 4 months or so ago the CDC said only 9,000 (any death is one too many, of course) can be DIRECTLY ATTRIBUTED TO COVID (the CCP virus). Hospital medical record keeping is highly, highly suspect; the patient, upon leaving the hospital, does not sign off on their medical record and has no idea what is entered in it-? For the very first time in my life -- in 2020 -- I voted for a republican, Trump, as I have always been anti-communist and would never vote for a communist.
Now below are some real facts of consequence,

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Mueller is the "special prosecutor" who appoints Jeannie Rhee to his staff from his law firm --- later he will claim he's never heard of her before --- the same Rhee who acted as attorney for Hillary Rodham Clinton's email case when her subpoenaed emails were illegally deleted by Cheryl Mills (who sat on the board of BlackRock, maybe still does) so as to hide any info about that $6 billion which vanished from the Department of State while Hillary was sec'y of state.

A little later Hunter Biden would return from his latest China trip aboard Air Force Two with a $1.4 billion "investment" from the Peoples Bank of China (on whose board sits Mitch McConnell's sister-in-law) and Vice President Joe Biden signs the MEMORANDUM OF UNDERSTANDING with Xi Jinping to allow Chinese gov't--connected firms to list on the New York Stock Exchange without going through the required auditing review.

All coincidence, of course.

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Walter724
Jan 06, 2021

I was kind of disappointed in this book. It goes back very far in Donald Trump's life, and she barely even talks about his presidency. The writing style is ok, but it reads like when you are at a family reunion, and some relatives are relaying family gossip to you.

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l_langer
Jan 04, 2021

I picked this book up and read it in 3 days. Once you start, I found it almost impossible to put down. Helping understand who Donald Trump is and where he comes from was so informative for me! I think more people (everyone?) should read this book and talk about what they learned from it. Mary L. Trump is a really great writer and although her opinion of her uncle is clear, she does a good job of basing her book on facts and proven records/statements that are researched and truthful. A great read. I'd highly recommend this book.

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thaitea7009
Dec 21, 2020

Too Much and Never Enough is a book giving insight into the life of one of the most controversial US presidents. Especially with, in my opinion, the dreadful response he has had to the many problems our country is facing, I felt this book would be relevant and interesting to read. The book starts with describing the home life and childhood of the Trump family. This includes even a few years before Donald Trump was born, giving exposition on his parents and older siblings. It also gives how they develop into why the way they are and how the author fits into the whole plot of the book(She is Trump’s niece). As a certified psychologist, Mary L. Trump explains the external and internal factors that made the Trump family so dysfunctional and turned Donald into the person he is today. While I love her explanations and thorough analysis, I wish she described more than told, as her first hand accounts are mostly in her view. This means she has to resort to telling throughout some important parts of the book, but knowing what she might’ve gone through to obtain this information allows me to let it slide. I would recommend this book for people 15+ with an interest in psychological analysis or the current president of our country.

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maiki69
Dec 17, 2020

When the president's niece, Mary L. Trump released her expose of life as a Trump with TOO MUCH AND NEVER ENOUGH: HOW MY FAMILY CREATED THE WORLD'S MOST DANGEROUS MAN, it sold over a million copies its first day. Born the fourth child of five to Fred and Mary Trump in 1945, Donald Jonathan Trump did not have a normal start to life. As a toddler, his mother fell ill and was never able to provide the nurturing child psychologists say is crucial for healthy development at that age. His father didn't see the need - or have the time - to fill the void left by Mary. From a very early age, the author claims, Donald was left to figure things out on his own.

Raised on the principles laid down by Norman Vincent Peale in THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING, Peale states, "[O]bstacles are simply not permitted to destroy your happiness and well-being. You need be defeated only when you are willing to be." Positivity is all well and good, but simply thinking positive creates a disconnect from reality, one which the author blames for her uncle's disregard for constructive criticism, and lack of gravitas in the face of real world issues that negatively impact the people he was elected to serve.

Groomed by his father to serve as the public face of the family business, Fred Trump used his popularity to inflate his own failed ambition. Mary writes, "[W]hen he was in his right mind, he wouldn't trust Trump Management to anybody. Instead, he used Donald, despite his failures and poor judgment, as the public face of his own thwarted ambition."

As a family history, TOO MUCH is a tragedy. It portrays a family steeped in dysfunction, placing personal ambition above all else. We see a family based on transactions, requiring proof of value from each other, endlessly pitted against one another by its patriarch.

Mary, being a professional in the field of mental health, meaning to or not, gives her uncle a pass with TOO MUCH. Donald J. Trump, a product of his environment, can't help himself. As a political expose, TOO MUCH holds a lesson. Regardless of wealth and fame, it's important to know who you're electing.

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maiki69
Dec 17, 2020

Fred created an atmosphere of "learned helplessness," in which his children are dependent on the Master (in this case, Fred) for their most basic needs, contingent on his approval. The metrics of learned helplessness run in exact opposition to those of unconditional love.
http://www.penhead.org/

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mikey69
Sep 08, 2020

Fred kept propping up Donald's false sense of accomplishment until the only asset Donald had was the ease with which he could be duped by more powerful men."
-Mary L. Trump, PhD, TOO MUCH AND NEVER ENOUGH: HOW MY FAMILY CREATED THE WORLD'S MOST DANGEROUS MAN

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cknightkc
Aug 30, 2020

“Donald today is much as he was at three years old: incapable of growing, learning, or evolving, unable to regulate his emotions, moderate his responses, or take in and synthesize information.” - p. 196

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cknightkc
Aug 30, 2020

“Donald was to my grandfather what the border wall has been for Donald: a vanity project funded at the expense of more worthy pursuits.” - p. 195

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cknightkc
Aug 30, 2020

“Child abuse is, in some sense, the experience of ‘too much’ or ‘not enough’.” - p.26

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cknightkc
Aug 30, 2020

“I hope this book will end the practice of referring to Donald’s ‘strategies’ or ‘agendas,’ as if he operates according to any organizing principles. He doesn’t. Donald’s ego has been and is a fragile and inadequate barrier between him and the real world, which, thanks to his father’s money and power, he never had to negotiate by himself. Donald has always needed to perpetuate the fiction my grandfather started that he is strong, smart, and otherwise extraordinary, because facing the truth—that he is none of those things—is too terrifying for him to contemplate.” - p.17

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jimg2000
Aug 22, 2020

There are 351 quotes posted in goodreads:
https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/84437295-too-much-and-never-enough-how-my-family-created-the-world-s-most-danger
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Also, the book mentioned an Oct 2, 2018 NYTs article "Trump Engaged in Suspect Tax Schemes as He Reaped Riches From His Father." It is well worth a re-read:
https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2018/10/02/us/politics/donald-trump-tax-schemes-fred-trump.html

President Trump has been fighting a subpoena seeking his tax returns by Congress and the New York State prosecutors.
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My quotes below stay away from the Trump family saga except Trump's alleged hiring someone to take his SATs. The rest of the quotes are on the inappropriate sexual comments to the author, his oldest brother's daughter (similar comments to his daughter Ivanka from various other sources), willingly to be manipulated press, and Trump's handling of the COVID-19 pandemic.

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jimg2000
Aug 22, 2020

Aware of the Wharton School’s reputation, Donald set his sights on the University of Pennsylvania. Unfortunately, even though Maryanne had been doing his homework for him, she couldn’t take his tests, and Donald worried that his grade point average, which put him far from the top of his class, would scuttle his efforts to get accepted. To hedge his bets he enlisted Joe Shapiro, a smart kid with a reputation for being a good test taker, to take his SATs for him. That was much easier to pull off in the days before photo IDs and computerized records. Donald, who never lacked for funds, paid his buddy well. Not leaving anything to chance, he also asked Freddy to speak with James Nolan, a friend from St. Paul’s, who happened to work in Penn’s admissions office. Maybe Nolan would be willing to put in a good word for Freddy’s little brother.

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jimg2000
Aug 22, 2020

As formal as Mar-a-Lago was in some ways, it was also much more casual than our usual family gathering places, so I felt comfortable wearing a bathing suit and a pair of shorts to lunch, which was being served on the patio. Donald, who was wearing golf clothes, looked up at me as I approached as if he’d never really seen me before. “Holy shit, Mary. You’re stacked.” “Donald!” Marla said in mock horror, slapping him lightly on the arm.
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At a very deep level, his bragging and false bravado are not directed at the audience in front of him but at his audience of one: his long-dead father.
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In those days, Penn was much less selective than it is now, accepting half or more of those who applied. In any case, Donald got what he wanted. In the fall of 1966, his junior year, he would transfer from Fordham to the University of Pennsylvania.

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jimg2000
Aug 22, 2020

On October 2, 2018, the New York Times published an almost 14,000-word article, the longest in its history, revealing the long litany of potentially fraudulent and criminal activities my grandfather, aunts, and uncles had engaged in. Through the extraordinary reporting of the Times team, I learned more about my family’s finances than I’d ever known.
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On the few occasions he was asked about his positions and policies (which for all intents and purposes don’t really exist), he still wasn’t expected or required to make sense or demonstrate any depth of understanding. Since the election, he’s figured out how to avoid such questions completely; White House press briefings and formal news conferences have been replaced with “chopper talk” during which he can pretend he can’t hear any unwelcome questions over the noise of the helicopter blades.

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maiki69
Dec 17, 2020

2020 saw several court battles over books featuring the Trump administration's missteps, and personal battles. One such title was THE ROOM WHERE IT HAPPENED: A WHITE HOUSE MEMOIR by former national security adviser John Bolton. Releasing it to a public hungry for insight into a president whose actions left many perplexed, it sold upwards of 750,000 copies its first week alone. Mary L. Trump, PhD, the president's niece, blew those numbers away in July with the release of her book TOO MUCH AND NEVER ENOUGH: HOW MY FAMILY CREATED THE WORLD'S MOST DANGEROUS MAN, selling over a million copies its first day. Love him or hate him, the American public, it seemed, couldn't get enough of Trump.

Born the fourth child of five to Fred and Mary Trump in 1945, Donald Jonathan Trump did not have a normal start to life. When he was still a toddler, his mother fell ill and was never able to provide the nurturing child psychologists say is crucial for healthy development at that age. His father, already a baron of sorts through his company Trump Management, didn't see the need - or have the time - to fill the void left by Mary. From a very early age, the author claims, Donald was left to figure out life on his own.

Fred Trump ran his household on the principles laid down by Norman Vincent Peale in THE POWER OF POSITIVE THINKING, the international bestseller and precursor to the so-called prosperity gospel. It states, "[O]bstacles are simply not permitted to destroy your happiness and well-being. You need be defeated only when you are willing to be." Positivity is all well and good, but applying Peale's philosophy as a foundation of child-rearing? A philosophy that places blame squarely on the shoulders of the struggling; well, that's just messed up. As a result, Fred created an atmosphere of "learned helplessness," in which his children are dependent on the Master (in this case, Fred) for their most basic needs, contingent on his approval. The metrics of learned helplessness run in exact opposition to those of unconditional love.

Mary paints a picture of her grandfather void of affection. His approach to life seems to mirror what we know about President Trump: winning is everything, and winner takes all. He recognized Donald's flash and personality - qualities Fred lacked - and understood he could use them for financial gain.

"Fred didn't groom Donald to succeed him; when he was in his right mind, he wouldn't trust Trump Management to anybody. Instead, he used Donald, despite his failures and poor judgment, as the public face of his own thwarted ambition. Fred kept propping up Donald's false sense of accomplishment until the only asset Donald had was the ease with which he could be duped by more powerful men."

As a family history, TOO MUCH is a tragedy. It portrays a family which values wealth above each other. A family based on transactions, requiring proof of value from one another, endlessly pitted against each other by the family patriarch. Mary, being a professional in the field of mental health, excuses her uncle's petulance with TOO MUCH, whether intentionally or not. Mired in dysfunction, how else was he supposed to turn out?

As a political expose, TOO MUCH is a provocative warning. Regardless of wealth and fame, it's important to know what you're electing.

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mikey69
Sep 08, 2020

How Norman Vincent Peale destroyed America. Written by the president's niece, Mary L. Trump, PhD.

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